How Dare You?

Hi! I’m Denora. This is my blog.
At least, as far as I’m aware it is. My own personal space on this grand interweb for me to say and think and feel however I’d like, right? Because apparently some people think it’s not. They think I don’t have a right to express my feelings about certain subjects. They think it’s ok to send me e-mail telling me I’m a horrible person. How can they say that when they don’t really know me? You think by reading a couple of posts that I’ve put up online, you know all about me? Please. I’ve known me all my life, and I’m not even sure I know all about me. How can you?
Last week I posted this and apparently sparked some hostility in someone who wasn’t even brave enough to use their real name to e-mail me. (For the record, Denora IS my real name, as I’ve explained before.) I was told that I was a “horrible person for trying to trap a man into having a child with you.” I’m also a “selfish bitch who only wants to be a single mom to attract men.” Now, maybe it’s just me, but those sentences are a little contradictory, no? First I want to trap the guy I’m already with into having a baby, but then I want to be a single mom to get a man? I don’t see how that works.
I know I shouldn’t let it get to me. I know that everyone is entitled to their opinion, and if someone wants to think that I’m horrible and selfish, then they’re entirely free to do so. I get angry, however, when they feel the need to push their unsolicited opinion on to me regarding my personal feelings. I did not ask what other people thought about it. I simply used the forum to vent/express my own feelings on it. And it irritates and angers me that I now feel like I have to defend myself.
I would never EVER trick, trap, coerce or otherwise force someone to have a baby with me. Why on earth would I do that when the option of having a baby exists without the need for devious practices? If I wanted a baby THAT badly, I would go to a sperm bank. No trickery needed, as those guys made deposits specifically for the baby making purpose. Why would I want to force someone into an enormous responsibility that they don’t want? I know sometimes I’m bitchy, but I’m not vengeful, nor heartless. If I have a baby, I want it to be loved unconditionally, not resented or called a mistake.
I love Donald, and I hope someday to have a baby with him (and I realize that seems fast for those of you just finding out that Jason and I are divorced, but remember I don’t post every detail of my life here). Whether we have kids in 5 weeks, 5 months, 5 years, or not at all, it’ll be because we BOTH made the decision. And if things between us don’t work out, then I’ll have some choices to make on my own. But they are MY choices, and I do not want or need your anonymous hateful input.