Comments on: And so it begins… http://www.thedenora.com/2007/12/and-so-it-begins/ The One. The Only. The Denora. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 05:50:05 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: The Denora » Catching Up http://www.thedenora.com/2007/12/and-so-it-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-215 The Denora » Catching Up Thu, 05 Feb 2009 20:13:50 +0000 http://www.thedenora.com/blog/?p=140#comment-215 [...] people who are going to back out at the last second. (Although that didn’t work so well the last time.) I really don’t think there’s a whole lot they can tell me that’s going to scare [...] [...] people who are going to back out at the last second. (Although that didn’t work so well the last time.) I really don’t think there’s a whole lot they can tell me that’s going to scare [...]

]]> By: NGS http://www.thedenora.com/2007/12/and-so-it-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-166 NGS Thu, 13 Dec 2007 05:32:37 +0000 http://www.thedenora.com/blog/?p=140#comment-166 I wish you and your friend the best of luck in your decision. As for the first donor, I feel your frustration with her. I agree that she probably should have had the nerve to be face to face when discusing how she changed her mind, but I also feel her fright and anxiety. I just deleted a sloppily sentimental sentence about forgiveness, but I think the concept might be something to keep in mind in the coming weeks. I'm impressed with how strong you are. You are a good friend. I wish you and your friend the best of luck in your decision.

As for the first donor, I feel your frustration with her. I agree that she probably should have had the nerve to be face to face when discusing how she changed her mind, but I also feel her fright and anxiety. I just deleted a sloppily sentimental sentence about forgiveness, but I think the concept might be something to keep in mind in the coming weeks.

I’m impressed with how strong you are. You are a good friend.

]]> By: Someone Being Me http://www.thedenora.com/2007/12/and-so-it-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-167 Someone Being Me Wed, 12 Dec 2007 14:42:47 +0000 http://www.thedenora.com/blog/?p=140#comment-167 That is an incredible thing to do for someone who isn't family. I would be terrified as well. I'm sure Kelly would understand someone backing out. This isn't like loaning her your car for the weekend. However I guess you should look at it in the long term. If she dies waiting for a kidney could you live with that? Knowing you could have helped? I don't know if needing a kidney transplant is life threatening or if she could go on with dialysis indefinitely. However, you are young and you do have a lot of life left to live and what would having just one kidney put you at risk for. When in doubt I pray about things. Divine intervention so to speak. A prayer asking that if this isn't supposed to happen that something will make it not happen. Or I will at least make peace with my decision. If you aren't the praying kind then maybe just talking it over with a neutral 3rd party might help. Or talk to your doctor and ask for the pros and cons from a medical perspective. Sometimes they can tell you more than internet research ever can. Either way it is a noble and selfless gesture to even consider such a thing. That in and of its self counts for something. That is an incredible thing to do for someone who isn’t family. I would be terrified as well. I’m sure Kelly would understand someone backing out. This isn’t like loaning her your car for the weekend. However I guess you should look at it in the long term. If she dies waiting for a kidney could you live with that? Knowing you could have helped? I don’t know if needing a kidney transplant is life threatening or if she could go on with dialysis indefinitely. However, you are young and you do have a lot of life left to live and what would having just one kidney put you at risk for. When in doubt I pray about things. Divine intervention so to speak. A prayer asking that if this isn’t supposed to happen that something will make it not happen. Or I will at least make peace with my decision. If you aren’t the praying kind then maybe just talking it over with a neutral 3rd party might help. Or talk to your doctor and ask for the pros and cons from a medical perspective. Sometimes they can tell you more than internet research ever can. Either way it is a noble and selfless gesture to even consider such a thing. That in and of its self counts for something.

]]> By: LL http://www.thedenora.com/2007/12/and-so-it-begins/comment-page-1/#comment-168 LL Wed, 12 Dec 2007 13:57:22 +0000 http://www.thedenora.com/blog/?p=140#comment-168 Wow, that's an amazing thing for you to do (and ditto to everything you said about potential donor #1, I get needing to back out, I don't get waiting so long to do it and then doing it so cowardly). I'll be thinking of you and can't wait to hear how all the testing goes. Wow, that’s an amazing thing for you to do (and ditto to everything you said about potential donor #1, I get needing to back out, I don’t get waiting so long to do it and then doing it so cowardly). I’ll be thinking of you and can’t wait to hear how all the testing goes.

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